Networking 101: How to build genuine connections from scratch

Networking can feel intimidating, especially if you're just starting out. But here’s the good news: It's really just about making connections, not perfecting a sales pitch. Whether you're looking for a job, thinking about a career pivot, or simply want to meet new people in your field, networking is a skill anyone can learn.

What is networking?

Networking is the act of building relationships that create opportunities, whether that’s finding a job, learning something new, or offering help to someone else. At its best, networking is a two-way exchange: You share what you know, and others do the same.

You might network to:

• Learn about different careers

• Find a mentor (or become one)

• Hear about jobs or internships before they’re posted

• Get advice on making a transition or facing a challenge

Networking doesn’t have to mean business suits and name tags. It can be a text to a former teacher, a LinkedIn message to someone in a role you admire, or a chat after a community event. What makes it networking is the intention behind it: to connect, learn, and support one another.

If you’ve ever asked a friend for a restaurant recommendation, you’ve already used a form of networking. This is the same idea, just applied to your goals, growth, and future.

Why networking matters

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Most opportunities—jobs, internships, mentors—don’t come from cold applications. They come from people. Networking is how you meet those people, build trust over time, and become someone they think of when an opportunity shows up.

That doesn’t mean you need a huge contact list. Even a few genuine connections can open unexpected doors. Conversations lead to insights. Insights lead to decisions. And sometimes, one conversation is all it takes to change your direction.

How to start networking: First steps

Rather than thinking about networking as a formal task, think of it as a conversation starter. Here’s how to ease into it:

Step 1: Map your existing network

You probably know more people than you think. Friends, classmates, past coworkers, neighbors, teachers—anyone who has insight or experience could be a great starting point.

Make a short list of 5–10 people who might be open to a chat. Then, send a message that sounds like you. 

For example, let’s say you’re looking to change career paths, from people you know who are currently working in that field. You may reach out with a simple conversation starter, like this:

"Hi [Name], I’m exploring careers in [industry] and really admire your path. Would you be open to a short conversation about your experience?"

Step 2: Learn by listening

Once someone agrees to chat, your job is simple: listen, learn, and ask thoughtful questions. This is often referred to as an informational interview.

Ask questions like:

• How did you get started in your role?

• What surprised you most about your career path?

• Any advice for someone just starting out?

Don’t just meet to ask for a job. The purpose is to have a conversation and build a relationship that will extend beyond one job search. A good conversation might lead to a referral or introduction down the road, but that’s not the expectation.

Step 3: Expand your circle online

LinkedIn is a natural platform for professional networking. Here’s how to get started:

• Use a clear, professional photo and a headline that reflects your goals

• Write a short, friendly summary about your interests

• Start by connecting with people you know (classmates, friends, coworkers)

• Engage with posts and comment thoughtfully to grow visibility

Other platforms, like Twitter or Instagram, can be helpful in creative or tech spaces. You can also explore forums or professional groups specific to your interests.

Step 4: Attend events with purpose

In-person or virtual events can be valuable spaces to meet new people. Choose events that feel relevant and manageable:

• Local meetups or workshops

• Webinars hosted by companies or organizations you admire

• Industry panels or student-alumni events

Before the event, come up with a few questions to ask others. During the event, aim to have just one or two real conversations, not dozens of shallow introductions.

Step 5: Be generous, not transactional

The most effective networkers think long-term. Even if you’re early in your journey, you have value to share. Recommend a great podcast, share an interesting article, or just check in with a kind note.

People remember those who follow up, show appreciation, and keep the conversation going without always asking for something.

Step 6: Follow up with intention

After a helpful conversation, send a thank-you email or message. Keep it short and specific:

"Thanks again for sharing your story—I really appreciated your insights about [topic]. It gave me a lot to think about."

A few weeks later, follow up with an update or share something relevant. Staying connected is how professional relationships grow.

Common mistakes to avoid

Even the most well-meaning networkers can miss the mark. Here are some of the most common missteps and how to avoid them:

• Waiting until you need something. Reaching out only when you’re job hunting can come off as transactional. Build relationships before you need them.

• Sending the same message to everyone. People can spot a copy-paste note a mile away. Personalize your outreach. Show that you’ve done a bit of homework.

• Talking more than you listen. Networking isn’t a performance. Ask thoughtful questions, listen actively, and let the other person share.

• Not following up. After someone gives you their time or advice, thank them, and follow up later if their guidance helped. It shows that you respect their time and helps foster a stronger connection.

• Forgetting it’s a two-way street. Even if you’re just starting, you can offer value. Share an article, offer encouragement, or make an introduction when you can.

• Overthinking every interaction. You don’t need to be perfect. Most people appreciate effort and sincerity over polish. Start small, stay human.

Just put yourself out there

Networking isn’t about having all the right words or knowing the "right" people. It’s about staying curious, being kind, and showing up with the intention to connect. Whether you’re just starting out or looking to grow, there’s always someone out there who can teach you something new.

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This blog post is provided "as is" and should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional advice. Some content in this post may have been created using artificial intelligence; however, every blog post is reviewed by at least two human editors.